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Another year over
I suppose it's about time I wrote something here.

I spent Christmas at home with just my parents and my sister, as usual. I can't think of many better ways to spend Christmas -- it seems to be dreadfully unfashionable to say this these days but I actually love my immediate family very much, and enjoy spending time with them.

Thank you to addedentry, lnr, ewx, ottah, angua and rejs for Christmas presents; thank you to everybody who sent cards, especially rysmiel and jiggery_pokery. I'm sorry I was utterly hopeless with Christmas cards; I feel as though Christmas crept up on me and hit me from behind.

I got back to Cambridge on New Year's Eve, and worked in the Carlton from 8-11pm. I've never seen the pub so busy; I barely had time to breathe for the first 2 hours. My party clothes (black velvet dress, purple corset, purple tights, New Rock boots) were ... appreciated. (There were lots of Rocky Horror related comments. Some of the regulars ran a sweepstake on what bra size I took.) The guitarist in the lounge bar was dreadful.

After finishing at the pub I then went to Relativity's New Year party. I changed into my 15" platform boots, kindly taken round to GR for me by sion_a. I have very few opportunities to wear them. It was a pretty good party, all things considered; only one or two 'down' points and I don't see much point in going into them here. The fireworks were pretty, and could be seen from inside without venturing out into the rain. There was an entertaining game of "I have never" at some time in the small hours of the morning. sion_a and I didn't get home till gone 6am.

I've been inordinately lazy for the last two days, spending most of the day lying in bed reading Agatha Christie novels. Today I had the bizarre experience of reading The Mysterious Affair at Styles while "Dead Man's Folly" was on TV in the background (sion_a was watching it). Had to get up today to work at the Carlton again this evening, though, and I'm supposed to be working at Oxfam tomorrow morning (which will mean getting into town for 9am).

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I've more or less avoided email, LJ and news from Christmas until now -- I needed a break from being constantly 'on call'. I don't have very much in the way of emotional energy at the moment. Or, to be perfectly honest, any other kind of energy.

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I've tried a few times to write a kind of roundup of 2003, and every time I've tried I've ended up in tears and unable to write anything useful. I will try again some time. I'll also post New Year's resolutions when I feel able to do so. To be honest though at the moment I don't feel that I have enough control over my life to be able to resolve anything more specific than continuing to breathe.

I hope 2004 will be better, for everyone.

Current Mood: mostly blank

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cjwatson From: cjwatson Date: January 2nd, 2004 04:42 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh, God, yes, that guitarist was terrible beyond belief. I left in objection about ten minutes in because I simply couldn't stand any longer hearing him butcher Irish folk songs that I grew up with, have sung, and actually like. *shudder*
sion_a From: sion_a Date: January 2nd, 2004 05:22 pm (UTC) (Link)
That was probably the fastest I've drunk a pint of decent beer (OK, it wasn't that great) in order that I could get away. I really should have just had a half....
bopeepsheep From: bopeepsheep Date: January 3rd, 2004 03:15 am (UTC) (Link)
I can't think of many better ways to spend Christmas -- it seems to be dreadfully unfashionable to say this these days but I actually love my immediate family very much, and enjoy spending time with them.
Seconded. I used to feel very out of place at uni and in my early twenties, since I seemed to be the only person I knew who a) liked and b) spent time with their family. (And c) saw them regularly but that's mostly a geographical thing.) A family Christmas is the way, for me, and I'm glad you enjoyed yours.

We didn't send (m)any cards at all this year [imc sent a couple to family friends, I believe and I sent a grand total of two, one inside a birthday card and one inside a package]. I'm sorry about that, you'd definitely have been very near the top of our list if we had. Hope the absence of one didn't get read as anything meaningful. Just too many things and not enough time. Come and see us soon?
j4 From: j4 Date: January 4th, 2004 09:33 am (UTC) (Link)
[re cards]
Hope the absence of one didn't get read as anything meaningful. Just too many things and not enough time.

To be perfectly honest, the absence of a card occasioned a sigh of relief -- "thank heavens I'm not the only person who didn't have time to do Christmas cards!" -- and stopped me feeling so guilty about not having sent you one. If you see what I mean. Because I was going to send one, and then I left it all till the last minute and then couldn't find my address book, and ... you know how it is. I do still feel guilty though. And, I mean, at least you and DH have an excuse, namely smallclanger. :-)

Come and see us soon?

I'd love to! Only problem is I'm working on Saturdays (Oxfam) and Sundays (pub) now so will have to organise weekends away well in advance. So I can get the time off, I mean. Sometimes I think I do too much. Other times I don't think I do enough because it still doesn't stop me thinking. :-/
k425 From: k425 Date: January 4th, 2004 02:46 am (UTC) (Link)
Well, I'm with you and J here - I like spending Christmas with family. These days the family I want to spend it with consists of Bloke and YoungBloke so that we can develop our own traditions, and that's what we did.
j4 From: j4 Date: January 4th, 2004 09:39 am (UTC) (Link)
It sounds perfect. That was one of the hypothetical "very few" ways of spending Christmas that I could think of which would be better than spending it with my parents and my sister -- spending it with my own new family. Unfortunately I doubt if that's ever going to happen for me... Still, I hope you carry on enjoying it for many, many years to come.
k425 From: k425 Date: January 5th, 2004 04:20 am (UTC) (Link)
It didn't happen for me for a long time, so please don't lose hope yet!
j4 From: j4 Date: January 5th, 2004 04:49 am (UTC) (Link)
But ... oh, you know.
I felt more hopeful about things last night, but now I feel all hopeless again. :-(

I still don't feel I can talk about it on LJ, either. I've got so used to the fact that anything to do with me and He-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named is a Forbidden Subject, that I wouldn't know where to start now. And it's even worse in real life. Most of my friends don't have a clue what's going on, and I suspect they don't want to know. They certainly never ask, and if I tell them anything they mostly just look sideways and try to change the subject.

Talking of families, though, the GP nurse gave me a lecture on Family Planning when I went to pick up my prescription for the Pill. Because I admitted that I'd forgotten to take the Pill once or twice in the past, and she asked me if I knew what to do if I missed one, and I gave her the textbook answer, and then she told me off anyway, and told me all the stuff I'd just told her I knew. And I said that I was being careful, because this would be a bad time to get pregnant, and she looked down her nose at me and said very carefully (as if talking to somebody a bit hard-of-thinking) "Well, of course. It's family planning, isn't it. You have to sit down and plan having a baby." I said, "Well, yes and no," and she ignored me and started on about something else.

I did think about pointing out to her that it's actually very difficult for a mummy and a daddy to have a Very Special Cuddle when they're 400 miles apart, but I didn't think she'd have understood something as subtle as that.
k425 From: k425 Date: January 5th, 2004 07:29 am (UTC) (Link)
I can understand about not talking about stuff. I was limited in who I could talk to about Bloke.

And I'd give the nurse the benefit of the doubt - not as an ex-nurse but as a woman who if asked who have been able to say exactly what to do in the event of forgetting to take a pill, and yet forgot when I did forget, iyswim!
j4 From: j4 Date: January 5th, 2004 08:07 am (UTC) (Link)
I can understand about not talking about stuff. I was limited in who I could talk to about Bloke.

Basically the only person I can talk to in any detail about me-and-him is him. (Well, and me, but talking to myself doesn't help much!) Which makes the whole thing very inward-looking, if you see what I mean. I do talk to my mum about stuff occasionally, but that's really just talking to myself with sympathetic sound-effects. (Or, usually, crying down the phone and getting sympathetic noises in response.) I mean, I really do appreciate her listening but obviously there's not much she can say. And I don't think (based on past experience) that she'd tell me outright if she thought I was doing the wrong thing; though I think I'd know anyway if that was what she thought.

I guess the problem is that there's nothing anybody can say, really. <sigh>

The fact that it did work out for you and Bloke is a big encouragement to me, though. (I hope you don't mind me saying that.)
k425 From: k425 Date: January 5th, 2004 09:16 am (UTC) (Link)
Of course I don't mind! And I do hope things work out for you.
imc From: imc Date: January 5th, 2004 04:31 am (UTC) (Link)
Yes and no. . .

It's nice to start your own traditions and bring up a son with the idea of `this is what we do at Christmas and it's jolly good fun' - but on the other hand, if you go and visit parents then you get Christmas dinner without having to have done all the preparation first. :-)

We were with my parents this year - we'll probably be with bopeepsheep's next year, and then the year after that, when smallclanger is old enough to sit up and take notice, we will be at home with just the three of us. There's probably just about time to get the house tidy by then, too.
k425 From: k425 Date: January 5th, 2004 05:46 am (UTC) (Link)
That's a good way to do it - it's what my ex-husband and I did (well, one set of parents, home together, other set of parents, home together, rinse, repeat). However, I know enough people who had to go to family for Christmas and didn't enjoy the experience that it's not what I want to do. Besides which, my family are in Herts and Bloke's family are in Somerset, and the driving involved with a small baby aren't as easy as just going on our own!

Besides, I don't find doing Christmas dinner to be too hard, even with a grotty cold (me and YB) and a research project on YB's daily activities. I quite enjoy it!
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