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beingjdc From: beingjdc Date: August 28th, 2003 03:43 am (UTC) (Link)
It may be no coincidence that the friends from school I'm still in touch with are the ones who got e-mail accounts in 1996. Livejournal may well be starting to go the same way as more and more social events are being organised via this medium, especially the clubbing of the London variety.

Thinking not about when you're static for a long time in the same place, but when you move, most of the friends that you keep are the ones you have ongoing contact with for some reason other than location.

The technomentalists would certainly say this is good and proper - the future is to forge friendship groups based on common interests, rather than common geography. The Eurosceptic in me agrees, but the bit of me that pays the train fare to London is less convinced. I'm also wondering what proportion of my friendslist (yes, it conflates 'diaries I want to read' with 'diaries I want to be read by') falls into the categories

a) People I was already in regular close contact with
b) People I knew but didn't actually speak to often
c) People I knew as friends of friends but didn't know well
d) People who shared common interests who I had never heard of

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acronym From: acronym Date: August 28th, 2003 04:09 am (UTC) (Link)

It may be no coincidence that the friends from school I'm still in touch with are the ones who got e-mail accounts in 1996. Livejournal may well be starting to go the same way as more and more social events are being organised via this medium


I'd noticed this, which is why I started reading LJ. It's not a medium I'm very comfortable with, but there's a large degree of social pressure when the majority of one's peer group is using it - not least because it's assumed that everyone is entirely up to date on the minutiae of each other's lives as a result, which is not really a safe assumption. When people are having to participate in a medium they don't really enjoy in order to avoid being excluded, then you know that within that community, it has critical mass. The problem j4 describes then happens; the unspoken assumption of the biggest LJ fans that everyone is constantly up to date with it begins to tread on peoples' toes, and you have a large number of people using the service with very different expectations and frequencies which they are naturally going to tend to project onto other people. The upshot of this is, as ever, that people get hurt; that seems to be a universal constant.

The LJ concept of friends is pretty confused, too; I'd (waves hands) guess that most people are actually close friends with maybe 10% of their friendslist, if that. It's really a "subscriber" list.
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