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I've decided to make the last few posts (but not this one obviously) friends-only, because they're largely about Img and nursery and stuff and I suspect I probably should be a bit more circumspect about who reads them (though obviously the NSA is still reading them anyway, and Google is probably projecting them on to the moon as we speak). To be honest I should probably make this whole journal friends-only since I have other public blogs for stuff I actively want to make public (as opposed to stuff I'm not too worried about people seeing). It used to be a point of principle that my LJ was entirely public except for very occasional admin posts about change of address, but I'm not really sure what that principle is any more, and I suspect it doesn't apply when I'm posting about someone who doesn't get a say in it. I also suspect that having points of principle about LJ is like having strong opinions about daguerrotypes or something.

(Is there a way to make only posts after a certain date friends-only? Or only posts with a certain tag? There are a few posts I want to keep public. Maybe I should just put them somewhere else. And then I think oh really who cares, only 12 people read this anyway. 12 people and Google and the NSA.)

It's been fun to watch people unfriending me as I post stuff though (I'm guessing it's not so much the content as "oh I forgot she was on my friends list but now she's started posting again, can't remember who she is anyway"). Ah, the drama llamas of yesteryear. To be honest the friendslist angst all seems pretty trivial now compared with the real feeling that my actual friends (some of whom are also my LJ friends, of course) are slipping further and further away from me in time and place and connectedness and it's not some kind of big drama, it's just that people sort of softly and suddenly vanish away. I am very bad at taking people off 'friends lists' but it's starting to feel like the people-I-sorta-like-but-basically-never-see-or-talk-to are diluting the actual friendships (though this is more of a problem on Facebook where I'm 'friends' with loads of people I haven't seen or significantly thought about for a quarter of a century. Need to do something about that.) Maybe that's silly and maybe it doesn't make any difference and maybe the real problem is that I'm a dreadful correspondent or that the people I want to stay friends with just aren't that into me. Not fishing for compliments here, just musing on the way friendships change and the way everything seems to get stretched thinner as I get older.

So tired.

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From: kjaneway Date: November 7th, 2013 07:56 am (UTC) (Link)
I don't always comment, but I often read and enjoy your posts. I do totally agree that as time passes the nature of friendships and how we approach them changes, both generally and specifically.

We all also seem to be trying to do more and more in the finite amount of time available, which means that some things are going to fall by the wayside, even if we don't mean them to.
emperor From: emperor Date: November 7th, 2013 08:41 am (UTC) (Link)
I seem to have ended up with a people-I've-met policy on FB, so it gets amusing links and suchlike posted, but FB-friends feel different to LJ-friends. There are tools for f-locking bits of one's journal, but I'm afraid I've never played with them.
kaberett From: kaberett Date: November 7th, 2013 03:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
I - don't really know, in that I'm also a dreadful correspondent; Dreamwidth does a really good job of letting me pretend to not be, but obviously that's problematic in terms of people who don't that thing. So. don't know. (I am lucky in that most of the people who I would most mind my being a dreadful correspondent fucking up relationships with are also bad at it, so we have mutual yes-it's-okay, but... clearly that doesn't work all the time with all the people.)
jinty From: jinty Date: November 7th, 2013 05:16 pm (UTC) (Link)
Doesn't look like you can edit privacy per tag, but you can bulk-edit privacy by dates, including basing new-privacy on old-privacy (so only set public posts to friends-only, for example).
ewx From: ewx Date: November 7th, 2013 05:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
Still here, and finding your postings interesting, just don't have much to say.
juudes From: juudes Date: November 8th, 2013 08:53 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm not sure I've ever commented on your blog - we've never met but I think I linked to you as you were a friend of a friend (of a friend, possibly) so I hope I don't come across as too stalkery... but I did read those posts before you (quite understandably) friends-locked them and I thought they were brilliantly furious about exactly the things I would probably be furious about if I had a child.
k425 From: k425 Date: November 11th, 2013 04:27 pm (UTC) (Link)
If you find a way to make things friends-only after a certain date, please share (as will I if I find it first!). I'm still reading, and enjoying reading, but I am way behind. When I've caught up I shall post again!
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