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jvvw From: jvvw Date: December 19th, 2010 04:22 pm (UTC) (Link)
I think it's a different sort of exhaustion once the baby arrives. You need to feed it at least every three hours so if you are breastfeeding and so can't delegate feeding then your sleep all comes in chunks of two hours tops if that and days and nights run into each other in a relentless sort of way. However you don't have the physical exhaustion of pregnancy and after the first week or so I've always been able to drop off instantly, plus it all feels much more worth it.. A lot will depend on what your baby is like too in terms of sleep etc it seems to vary quite a lot. I know it is a cliche but not sure anything can really prepare you though.
j4 From: j4 Date: December 20th, 2010 09:09 am (UTC) (Link)
I really hope my baby is the sort that sleeps sometimes (though if current levels of movement are any kind of indicator, she only sleeps for a maximum of about 30 minutes at a time!). At the moment if I wake in the middle of the night (as I do at least once every night) it can take me up to an hour to get back to sleep - on that basis it looks as though I will have to literally not sleep at all for several months, & that will actually kill me. :-( :-(
jvvw From: jvvw Date: December 20th, 2010 09:42 am (UTC) (Link)
If it's any reassurance, I always used to take forever to get back to sleep and from a week or two in, I never have any problems getting straight to sleep. I think it helps that
breastfeeding makes both you and the baby sleepy.

One thing I wish I'd done is used the couple of days after the birth better to catch up on the sleep I'd lost while in labour overnight. You're running on adenalin at the time and there are lots of interruptions in hospital so it wouldn't have been easy, but babies are quite sleepy in the first couple of days and didn't take as much advantage of that as I had wished.

The over thing that helped our sanity I think was making the decision to cosleep (with Jon in spare bedroom) when it became apparent that Owen really really didn't want to sleep in either his Moses basket or cot. We spent the first week or so persevering with the Moses basket and it was quite a relief to just give up and do what actually gave us sleep. Likewise with feeding to sleep - I might regret it down the line, but now, getting sleep feels way more important. Also a bit turning point was making the decision that I would give up breastfeeding if it was making me too stressed or driving me insane. I'm still breastfeeding but it's been easier carrying on knowing that I won't feel bad if I do decide to give up or add in formula top-ups.

perdita_fysh From: perdita_fysh Date: December 20th, 2010 09:56 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm another who used to lie awake for hours if I ever disturbed in the night, and often took hours to get to sleep in the first place. Not so now, I sleep if placed horizontal now pretty much! Although, interestingly, I've had two nights recently of being awake from 4am onwards and unable to get back to sleep. I think there are two things at play there, in both cases she'd not disturbed at all until 4am so I'd slept continuously since 10pm and I'm not used to that; and also I think the new pregnancy has an effect.

Next time I will definitely co-sleep fulltime from the start. We did a part-way thing to begin with last time which was ok, but you just get so much more sleep co-sleeping I wouldn't bother with anything else in future. And in the tough weeks I sent G to sleep in the spare room Mon-Thu so he could function for work, and then he took her away to play from first waking so I got long lie-ins at the weekend.
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