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j4 From: j4 Date: November 5th, 2010 09:44 am (UTC) (Link)
It sounded like "rushed into hospital" from my reading of it, so I'm sorry if I misrepresented you! To be honest every real-life birth story I've ever read makes the whole experience sound horrific and terrifying (except the ones where they're obviously lying, you know, the "it wasn't so much pain as a glorious glowing sensation of empowerment and love" ones - yeah right). I wish there was some way I could get out of it. :-(

I really don't know what we're going to do about the getting-to-hospital bit (which as I say seems to be 100% inevitable even if you think you're going to have a home birth) -- we don't have a car and we don't really have anybody with a car who we can ask to be on standby for weeks on end. I assume there are people in the world who have managed to give birth without a car (I mean obviously in Olden Days before cars everybody just died in childbirth anyway, but after that...) but I've yet to find a single one. :-/ Most people I've asked just look baffled and say "But you'll need a car when you have a child anyway, so just buy one now."

The local home birth group might be useful if you've got the details (though they will probably tell me I'm too negative and nervous for a home birth & I should just go into hospital), but we can't afford a doula.
jinty From: jinty Date: November 5th, 2010 10:44 am (UTC) (Link)
It wasn't rushed, it was to hospital, it wasn't horrific or terrifying (I think you may be bringing your fears to bear there cos I don't think what I wrote was either - I grant you that hours of contractions don't sound fun, and they weren't, but they weren't horrific or scary either).

Can't you get a taxi? That assumes you won't be needing an ambulance of course. If it's like the journey to the hospital that we had, a taxi would have been ok.

The home birth group have a Facebook page - search for "Oxford Home Birth Support Group". I'll send you on the last email we had from them, too.
j4 From: j4 Date: November 5th, 2010 12:23 pm (UTC) (Link)
I think you may be bringing your fears to bear there

Inevitably, but I am sorry if you're offended that I'm reading negative things into something which was a positive experience for you. :-(

Hours of contractions sound quite awful enough (& I do find it scary and panicking when I'm in agony & I know it's quite likely to continue for another 24 hours) and that's probably the least worst bit. I am clearly too cowardly and feeble to give birth. :-( :-( But there's no way out of it now. :-(

Can't you get a taxi?

As I understand it, taxis won't take women who are in labour -- I assume because they don't want the mess/liability. Fair enough I suppose.
jinty From: jinty Date: November 5th, 2010 01:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
I think we may both be being sorry about possibly offending each other... I'm not offended by your reading, but I do want to clarify that it wasn't that awful (the contractions were not very nice, but they really weren't agony; the effect built up and got very tiring, but it really wasn't agony, though obviously these things vary from person to person / labour to labour).

Re taxi - don't tell them you're in labour? After all unless you're actually ready to push it won't make much difference to them - if all you're doing is going in to be in labour in hospital, that is. If it's anything other than that, then an ambulance would be the right choice!
From: scat0324 Date: November 10th, 2010 03:51 pm (UTC) (Link)
Do the best you can to make arrangements to get there - phone the taxi companies in advance and ask their policies, get my mobile number and I'll do it if there's a Commonwheels car available (seriously - even at 3am - I'll probably be up with our new one anyway :-), and generally ask around in advance. If all that's been done, it's reasonable to get an ambulance. In fact, it's reasonable to call the birthing suite, say you've exhausted every option you can think of and get them to call an ambulance. For the way back, take the bus - you'll need a buggy suitable for "from birth", and the midwives at the hospital will look horrified, but it's not actually a problem.
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