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Sorry I've been quiet on LJ for so long. As some of you already know, I've been kind of busy (and consequently staggeringly tired) making something. It's still very small, but I'm still working on it non-stop (whether I like it or not) & it should be making its debut some time around the end of March next year...

we don't know what it is yet but it's definitely not a badger

Answers to the most common FAQs (in no particular order):

1. I'm at about 19 weeks now.
2. We don't know what sex it is yet, but we are happy to find out (if/when they can tell), & generally have no objection to telling other people, unless they are only asking so they know whether to knit stuff in pastel-pink or pastel-blue (answer: no thanks).
3. Yes, I did have "morning sickness", perhaps better known as "all the bloody time sickness", lots of it, for about 2 months, it has been utterly miserable & has only really been getting any better over the last week or so (I still feel really grotty in the mornings, & often feel queasy at other times).
4. My current plan is to stay at work for as long as possible, take as much paid maternity leave as I'm entitled to afterwards, & then return to work (assuming there are still any jobs left in HE at all by then).
5. Yes I am sure it's addedentry's, you cheeky bugger.

I'm happy to answer any other questions asked in good faith or good humour (but feeding trolls while pregnant can harm the baby).

BTW, I did want to tell people face-to-face or at least email-to-email where possible, but I realised that the combination of my normal lack-of-organisation and current shatteredness are making it even more difficult than usual to find the round tuits and mental togetherness for social interaction, and I was starting to feel like I couldn't say anything else on LJ until my readers knew about this, and it was sort of becoming the elephant in the room (or should that be "the elephant in the womb"?). So, um, apologies to those of you who feel this is a bit of an impersonal announcement, but it's probably because I haven't seen you for ages, which is nothing personal but more to do with having not felt up to eating/drinking/thinking/going out/staying awake very much, and hopefully now that that's getting a bit better (before it gets worse again, I guess...) I'll be able to start catching up with people a bit.

So... yeah!
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martling From: martling Date: November 2nd, 2010 12:12 pm (UTC) (Link)

Are you *sure* it's not a badger? I think you might have recessive badger genes, you know. :-P
julietk From: julietk Date: November 2nd, 2010 12:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
I was slightly disappointed at angelmine's 20ish-week scan to establish that it was definitely a baby she is having and not a puppy.
sion_a From: sion_a Date: November 2nd, 2010 12:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
More congratulations! (And also for having a non-metaphorical oven too.)
j4 From: j4 Date: November 2nd, 2010 01:40 pm (UTC) (Link)
*giggle* Thank you! The non-metaphorical oven comes at a very welcome time, as I really wasn't sure how to go about conceiving a Christmas cake in the metaphorical one.

(Also we have A HOB! With more than one ring! So this year we won't have to resort to fish-and-chips because the one ring[*] is busy for 6 hours steaming a pudding!)

[*] one ring to boil them all...
julietk From: julietk Date: November 2nd, 2010 12:51 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh wow! Congratulations! I hope the not-just-morning-sickness continues clearing up & the rest of the pregnancy goes smoothly.

Due to my involvement in angelmine's pregnancy (she's due a couple of weeks before you) I could happily now ask ALL SORTS of questions but will refrain from blithering on :)

ps is it only pastel pink/blue knitting you are anti, or knitting in general? I like knitting baby stuff because it is SMALL and therefore QUICK & also a good way to use up small quantities of yarn. :)
j4 From: j4 Date: November 2nd, 2010 01:44 pm (UTC) (Link)
I am not anti-knitting at all (though quite anti-pastels in general), but my grandma has already knitted loads of things & will doubtless knit loads more between now & next spring... but if you want an excuse to knit small things they will nonetheless be gratefully received! No obligation though, I didn't intend to sound like I was asking people to knit things. :-}

Unfortunately my knitting skills don't extend any further than decreasing (I can't increase! it goes all lumpy! I despair!) so the only thing I can knit are rectangular things and hats. AND A KITTEN! (cf icon) because that is all just rectangles and sewing and stuffing.
k425 From: k425 Date: November 2nd, 2010 01:58 pm (UTC) (Link)
Congratulations! Growing a baby is bloody exhausting (I used to sleep in the car on the way home from work and then fall asleep on the settee after dinner until Dave told me to go to bed), so rest!

Enjoy the bits of pregnancy that you can, and ignore all the old wives' tales and advice that you want - you'll get a lot.
j4 From: j4 Date: November 2nd, 2010 04:03 pm (UTC) (Link)
I used to sleep in the car on the way home from work

Just so long as you weren't driving! ;)

Enjoy the bits of pregnancy that you can

Hm. To be honest I'm still baffled by the idea that I would "enjoy" any of it! I don't enjoy throwing up, feeling queasy, having constant wind/indigestion/etc, being tired, dragging an enormous weight of extra belly around with me, waking up in the middle of every night... Other than that, it's just getting on with my life but with all the above stuff slowing me down & making me less good at doing my job & less likely to enjoy socialising. I mean, I do enjoy lots of the stuff I do in my day-to-day life, but I'd enjoy it a lot more if I didn't feel ill. And of course I'm looking forward to having a child (I mean, the bit where I've got a child -- definitely not looking forward to giving birth), but the process of getting there seems much more like a necessary evil than something I could ever enjoy! No way I'm doing it again, that's for sure.

The only way I can imagine it being fun is if I really got off on the idea of weeing in a plastic cup. :-}
venta From: venta Date: November 2nd, 2010 02:30 pm (UTC) (Link)
Gosh. Congratulations.

On the plus side, the hospital obviously don't think you're Really Stupid. A friend showed me a print of the scan-thingy of his 12-week proto-sprog and the hospital had helpfully labelled "head", "feet", "bottom" and (just in case there was any doubt) "baby". I'd just assumed this was standard practice, but obviously you passed some sort of intelligence test he didn't.

Does piracy run in either your or addedentry's family? I can see a definite Capt. Hook resemblance there...

j4 From: j4 Date: November 2nd, 2010 04:07 pm (UTC) (Link)
Heh! Never seen that sort of labelling (though they did point stuff out at the time while they were doing the scan). They did say that proto-sprog was very good at posing for photos... I reckon it was trying to get its facebook/LJ icon lined up early.

Does piracy run in either your or addedentry's family?

Um... I think he's used limewire before, does that count? 8-)
ceb From: ceb Date: November 2nd, 2010 04:36 pm (UTC) (Link)
Congratulations! :-)
tinyjo From: tinyjo Date: November 2nd, 2010 06:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
monkeyhands From: monkeyhands Date: November 2nd, 2010 08:41 pm (UTC) (Link)
Man, what a great start to NaNoWriMo. I feel like I know the characters already.

j4 From: j4 Date: November 3rd, 2010 03:19 pm (UTC) (Link)
teleute From: teleute Date: November 3rd, 2010 06:07 am (UTC) (Link)


Wow! Congrats to you both!

I had stupid amounts of nausea (although no actual vomiting). Some of which was brought on by them giving me extra progesterone, we think, but I was still fairly miserable with Katie too (when I refused the extra progesterone). It is pretty common to lose weight in the first trimester because of lack of eating/throwing everything up.

Are you looking for any new ideas for helping quell the morning sickness, or have you just given up? If you are, I can dredge my memory for anything that helped me or my friends. Either way, I can sincerely sympathise. It totally sucked, and is another indication that Intelligent Design is poorly named ;-)
j4 From: j4 Date: November 3rd, 2010 04:32 pm (UTC) (Link)


Thank you!

Are you looking for any new ideas for helping quell the morning sickness, or have you just given up?

Nah, thanks for the offer, but it is a lot better now (not actually throwing up any more, just feeling queasy-ish) & since studies have shown that nothing really helps more than a placebo I'm not really fussed about trying more placebos! :-}
hatmandu From: hatmandu Date: November 3rd, 2010 09:13 am (UTC) (Link)
Hey - congratulations! Two years on, with a stumpy little smart-arse refusing to do what we tell him, what can I say but it's definitely worth it :)
j4 From: j4 Date: November 3rd, 2010 03:21 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thanks! :)

Also, TWO YEARS! DUDE! Good grief time flies. But I guess you don't need me to tell you that. :-} Actually I suppose if I think about it you brought a tiny baby to our wedding which was, um, nearly 2 years ago, yeah.

Also also, sorry I didn't see this comment before commenting on your journal! (LJ comment notifications in "unreliable" shocker.)
sphyg From: sphyg Date: November 3rd, 2010 10:43 am (UTC) (Link)
Many congrats! If things had turned out differently we'd have been due around the same time.
j4 From: j4 Date: November 5th, 2010 09:46 am (UTC) (Link)
If things had turned out differently we'd have been due around the same time.

I'm afraid I don't know what happened, but if that means what it sounds like it means then I'm really sorry. :-(
olithered From: olithered Date: November 3rd, 2010 09:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
ghoti From: ghoti Date: November 4th, 2010 09:14 pm (UTC) (Link)
Congratulations! It was nice to see Owen so unexpectedly, too.

(I'm assuming that it's the pastel you dislike not the knitting? Although it does depend on the item)
ghoti From: ghoti Date: November 4th, 2010 09:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oops, I'm sorry, you already answered that one. I'll go back to sleep.
atreic From: atreic Date: November 8th, 2010 11:00 pm (UTC) (Link)
I missed this somehow! Congratulations! :-)
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