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All they say is "na na na na na"
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nja From: nja Date: July 20th, 2010 03:31 pm (UTC) (Link)
Like others I definitely don't think having kids is unfeminist. I don't even think it's unfeminist having kids and giving up work to look after them.

One of the reasons my mother dropped out of feminist activism in the early seventies was that she was made to feel like a traitor for wanting to spend time with her husband and their male children. (She did continue to be an activist in other areas, the Labour party and family planning / abortion, but not feminism per se).

There's a bit of me that wonders what's the point of having kids and continuing to work full time so you don't see them, and wonders if men feel like that too. I do feel like I don't have many years left to work it out.

Some men do - my father always used to take time off in lieu rather than overtime payment, because like my mother he enjoyed spending time with his family. My brother has structured his working life around seeing his children as much as possible. On the other hand I occasionally overhear revolting conversations in the pub which make me wonder why women stay with certain men (you put up with the wife, presumably for the regular sex and the housekeeping, and the children are another price you have to pay if you want your woman to keep giving you what you want).

lnr From: lnr Date: July 20th, 2010 04:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
True - while *I* don't consider those things unfeminist some feminists do - I think it's probably easier to take my position now than it used to be. But I grew up with a feminist mum, which probably helps :)
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