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All they say is "na na na na na"
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lnr From: lnr Date: July 20th, 2010 09:02 am (UTC) (Link)
A lot of this is very familiar to me.

I get round the cycling-in-a-skirt issue by mostly buying shortish flouncy skirts which don't get in the way. Long flouncy skirts can be almost impossible though, no matter how hard you try to tuck them up there's always a bit trying to escape and get stuck in your back brakes. It helps that I'm a fan of short skirts anyway, and don't care if people think I shouldn't be showing that much leg.

The lack of pockets is an issue, given I'm not a handbag person - I can put up with a bag while getting from A to B but can't bear to keep one with me at all times. I cope by being willing to be parted from wallet/phone/keys for much of the day at work, although occasionally I have to beg a colleague to let me back in the office if Julia has gone out and locked it :)

In the winter I'll almost always be wearing jeans anyway.

Like others I definitely don't think having kids is unfeminist. I don't even think it's unfeminist having kids and giving up work to look after them. There's a bit of me that quite wants kids too, and wants to at least be able to spend some reasonable amount of time with them, but I do wonder how you afford that in a traditional way when your earnings aren't the traditional way round! There's a bit of me that wonders what's the point of having kids and continuing to work full time so you don't see them, and wonders if men feel like that too. I do feel like I don't have many years left to work it out.

I don't do makeup routinely, but might a little for parties etc - I never did get the hang of foundation though. Like Rach I wonder if I might get vain about that later :) I do shave my legs and armpits, although not obsessively. I find it more attractive that way, and although I recognise that it's a completely artificial preference that was drummed into me as a teenager (teenagers can be horrid to each other) I don't seem to be able to just turn it off. I do find the smooth *feeling* of freshly shaved legs really nice though.

And as one invisible bisexual to another I still think you're cute :)

Edited at 2010-07-20 09:03 am (UTC)
nja From: nja Date: July 20th, 2010 03:31 pm (UTC) (Link)
Like others I definitely don't think having kids is unfeminist. I don't even think it's unfeminist having kids and giving up work to look after them.

One of the reasons my mother dropped out of feminist activism in the early seventies was that she was made to feel like a traitor for wanting to spend time with her husband and their male children. (She did continue to be an activist in other areas, the Labour party and family planning / abortion, but not feminism per se).

There's a bit of me that wonders what's the point of having kids and continuing to work full time so you don't see them, and wonders if men feel like that too. I do feel like I don't have many years left to work it out.

Some men do - my father always used to take time off in lieu rather than overtime payment, because like my mother he enjoyed spending time with his family. My brother has structured his working life around seeing his children as much as possible. On the other hand I occasionally overhear revolting conversations in the pub which make me wonder why women stay with certain men (you put up with the wife, presumably for the regular sex and the housekeeping, and the children are another price you have to pay if you want your woman to keep giving you what you want).

lnr From: lnr Date: July 20th, 2010 04:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
True - while *I* don't consider those things unfeminist some feminists do - I think it's probably easier to take my position now than it used to be. But I grew up with a feminist mum, which probably helps :)
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