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My final bellyache
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monkeyhands From: monkeyhands Date: June 9th, 2009 09:27 am (UTC) (Link)
The only good reason for seeing HR would be arse-covering: to have a record that you told them about X or asked for help with Y. But you need to remember that they'll only be interested in covering their own arses. You might get a show of sympathy, but you won't get any real support because they're on the side of your employer, not you.

It's still a good idea to talk to HR, but you need to go in there with a very clear agenda, e.g. "I'm here to ask for flexible working" or whatever. And you need to make your own record of the conversation. You can't rely on them to do that because a) they're more about protecting themselves than you, so you can't expect their notes to back you up; and b) they may well misunderstand part if not all of what you're trying to say.

All this means that any conversation with HR should happen when you're feeling confident and not vulnerable or weepy, which is a bootstrapping issue, or do I mean chicken-and-egg, or do I mean rowing the fox across the river?

And remember, moving house is just as stressful as divorcing a swan!
j4 From: j4 Date: June 9th, 2009 09:40 am (UTC) (Link)
And remember, moving house is just as stressful as divorcing a swan!

Ow it hurts when I laugh. :-}

(Thank you, though!)
htfb From: htfb Date: June 9th, 2009 10:02 am (UTC) (Link)
They can break your heart with one pain in the neck.
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