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My final bellyache
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j4 From: j4 Date: June 8th, 2009 04:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
We-ell... I really don't see it as a genuine question asking "did you have a good weekend?". It's just a ping, and sending back anything more than an ACK is just confusing the issue. I don't think that's wrong, I just find it much harder to read the meaning instead of the words when I'm tired and miserable.
teleute From: teleute Date: June 8th, 2009 05:32 pm (UTC) (Link)
If it makes you feel any better, I *deliberatly* answer honestly, because I figure people shouldn't say what they don't mean :-). You can always use that as an excuse. After all, it's just as easy to say "good to see you" as "how are you?" when, as you say, it's really more of a social ping than a deep desire to know your heart.

Sorry to hear you're feeling so set apart. I hope you regain some spark soon. *hugs*
cartesiandaemon From: cartesiandaemon Date: June 8th, 2009 09:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
:( Much sympathy for an awful time.

Regarding greetings, I would assume the other person doesn't actually care about me in detail, but I can avoid burdening them with what my life is actually like, I'd throw in some non-information-response like "great, went to a play" or "don't ask! you wouldn't believe how many ways a bike can go wrong in two days". Obviously, if you just want to say "go away", "fine thanks" is the correct response, and the best way of shutting down people who ask how you are when you're awful. But otherwise, I don't think etiquette demands a zero content reply.
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