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pseudomonas From: pseudomonas Date: April 10th, 2007 02:26 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm aware that this is (or is becoming?) the predominant sense in which people use the word, but I'm a) antipathic to this in principle, b) pedantic, and c) generally ornery.
j4 From: j4 Date: April 10th, 2007 02:41 pm (UTC) (Link)
Is there a single word or phrase which people could use for interpersonal-alliances-or-understandings-which-are-likely-to-be-(or-be-interpreted-by-others-as-being)-of-a-romantic-or-sexual-nature
to avoid irritating you?

To be honest, the-abstract-concept-of-relationships-between-things is not something I'm likely to find myself talking about very often, and I suspect I'm not alone in that bias. I also suspect that trying to persuade people to use longer disambiguating terms for the things that they talk about all the time, and reserve the shorter words/phrases for things they never talk about, is a bit of a lost cause.
pseudomonas From: pseudomonas Date: April 10th, 2007 02:44 pm (UTC) (Link)
I use "relationship" quite happily to mean "interpersonal relationship". I prefer "romantic relationship" for the case that you describe.
j4 From: j4 Date: April 10th, 2007 02:59 pm (UTC) (Link)
Do you think context makes any difference here? If I talked about "my relationship with Owen", for instance, would I have to specify "my romantic relationship with Owen" or would the fact that O & I are, in the popular parlance, "going out with each other" fulfil the same disambiguating function there? Or is it less about disambiguating and more about an irritating with society's assumptions about relationships-in-the-broadest-sense-of-the-word?

And... if it's not a rude question... do you find that you're less irritated by the use of "relationship" to mean "romantic relationship" when you're in a "romantic relationship" yourself?
pseudomonas From: pseudomonas Date: April 10th, 2007 03:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
Hmm. I know you and Owen are in a romantic relationship - if you spoke about this I'd take it for granted. The antipathy is, as you say, largely based on my dislike of the assumption that non-romantic relationships are so much inferior things. I realise that this asssumption isn't implicit in the way you're using the word, though, and I'll admit that "friendship" is a pretty useful word for many relationships.

The latter question - I don't know. I think possibly less irritated but still not happy about it.
j4 From: j4 Date: April 10th, 2007 03:26 pm (UTC) (Link)
I certainly don't mean to imply that non-romantic relationships are inferior to romantic relationships. And if I was going to start being ornery I'd be objecting to the implication that "romantic" and "non-romantic" was the only sensible line along which to divide one's relationships.

But it's apples and oranges, innit. Are apples inferior/superior to oranges? I'd venture to suggest that mouldy apples are inferior to non-mouldy oranges, but that may not apply if you really don't like oranges, though in that case the question's probably a bit pointless.

My original question was intended to be open-ended: there wasn't a "right" answer.
keirf From: keirf Date: April 11th, 2007 07:50 am (UTC) (Link)
Apples are better. This is a fact. They don't need peeling before you eat them, and you can turn them into cider.
j4 From: j4 Date: April 11th, 2007 08:28 am (UTC) (Link)
But you can actually eat orange peel, or use the zest in cakes and stuff, or make it into candied peel, whereas apple skin is just something to make your gums bleed when it gets stuck between your teeth.

Also, whoever heard of duck à la pomme? That'd clearly be rubbish.
keirf From: keirf Date: April 12th, 2007 09:53 am (UTC) (Link)
Duck a la pomme. Mmmm.
rysmiel From: rysmiel Date: April 12th, 2007 05:43 pm (UTC) (Link)
By a curious coincidence, a roast duck with apples, potatoes and carrots roasted in the same tin in the fat coming off it was what I had for dinner last night. It was delicious.

Then again, I don't like oranges much.
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